Connection, collaboration, empathy, communication, flexibility, emotional intelligence these are all vital skills for thriving a good life and becoming a good person. We’ve even heard that these qualities are key to becoming more fundamental, not just today, but in the future. After all, soft skills are what makes us fallible, and as far as we know, technology like artificial intelligence cannot execute them adequately.
Yet, one skill that is frequently overlooked is self reflection. According to research, the practise of reflecting can distinguish exceptional individuals from rest of the pack. I would even say that it is the basis from which all other soft talents arise.
The process as a whole focuses on learning, reflecting closely on the day to envision your behavior and it’s implications. It means sitting with oneself and thinking honestly about what happened, what worked, what didn’t, what can be done and what can’t. Reflection necessitates bravery. It’s thoughtful and purposeful. Being at the “top of your game” is only possible when you learn how to engage the future from your past.
Asking questions to yourself for self reflection is not simple. It is one of the most difficult task an individual does. As humans, we have tendency to make rash predictions about what will happen next based on what has previously happened. We employ logic and reason as part of the cognitive nature to “analyze, explain, and anticipate” throughout so as to exert some semblance of control over what happens in our life.
Reflect upon your frustrations. When our deep evaluation is critiqued, we become frustrated. Maybe someone parks in our spot, our trip is delayed, we get trapped in traffic, or a loved one arrives late. Goals reflect our values, and our values keeps us connected to our higher purpose in life.
Take it easy on yourself. Reflection, when done well can do wonders. Always remember that stumbling, rising up, reflecting on self and stumbling again is part of life and is how you attain quality. If you don’t do mistakes, you’ll not learn from it. But if you do mistakes, you’ll atleast have a chance to have reflection on self.